That’s me by the way (the topic and scary pic)…
Some of my recent blog posts seem to have touched a raw nerve in the business world. Besides the stupid comments I deleted from this blog about how stupid I am and ego-maniacal (I might actually be that one), I got a whole series of personal attacks (i.e. threats) that made me pause for a moment and reconsider…
And then I thought: WHO CARES!!!!
Can I share a little secret with you? A huge part of long-term high-performance is understanding who you are….
Seriously. Let me share my own personal story with you:
Concepts like discipline, hard work, goal mastery, and passion were drilled into me from an early age. I was raised by Christian parents who were very moral people (still are) who set the bar very high for performance and personal endeavor. I was trained in the musical arts (piano and trombone) and in public speaking. I started my first business before I was a teenager. I had no access to television for 18 years of my life. In fact our house was not even wired for cable — my dad told the builder to skip it altogether. During the summers, I had to read books for at least 2 hours per day and during school “season” I was fined if my bed was not made, shoes lined up in the closet, or (God forbid) I left the window open. Silly or not, I was trained to be efficient and effective.
I also picked up some bad habits. I worked so hard to be “perfect” that I spent a lot of “Dan PR” time trying to make sure everyone around me was happy with me. Was I wearing the right thing to go the right place to see and do the right things…….. It became an internal guessing games of “am I doing everything right”. That trickled over into my college choices, my business habits, and my selling style. I was out to prove everything to anyone within earshot, eyeshot, or “texting range”.
And then I hit a few rough patches… And all the critics that I was working so hard to please were no where around to help me. They were happy to throw their mental “sucker punch” and run. Everyone I was trying so hard to please was pleased that I was failing. I was pushed myself to “be better” and they were providing enough criticism to feed my addiction.
It took a great coach, a great wife, therapy, and lot of experience for me to come to grips with me being me. And guess what? I am more successful than ever — in every sense, style, and shape of the word… Lesson learned!
When you try to be who you are not, you waste enormous energy being someone that who is not effective. I may be wrong. I may be stupid. I probably am half as bright as you are. But I am cool with that. Being me is pretty surreal…
But I also have a secret that you should know: Long after you give up, sit down, and throw in the towel, I will be achieving excellence because the “me” that was trained to be effective and efficient is a warrior — and warriors conquer.
Do not apologize for greatness, achieve it.
P.S. I had the best parents a child could ever ask for. Thanks Mom and Dad for being rockstars!