When People Don’t Understand You…

Vision can be lonely

(I have had this article half-written for  more than 13 months but never finalized my thinking about it.  Today I present it to you as a work in progress…)

It is a certainty in life that not everyone will agree with you.  Further, no matter how hard you try, there will always be those that NEVER understand why you do what you do…

Let me tell you how that makes me feel: LONELY! (Frankly, I can also be pretty frustrated…)

You might feel a similar emotion… The feeling of “I should just give up” or “what I’m doing doesn’t matter”…  Sometimes anger or resentment become the flavor of the day in place of creativity and innovation…

All of these are fairly typical responses when peer pressure is applied to our value system…  Bear in mind that we are not discussing opinions or perspectives, we are talking about VALUES — the underlying core of our psychological being…

The fact that others do not understand that part of us can be damaging if not put into perspective…  Ralph Waldo Emerson made his case for sanity by noting that:

“Is it so bad to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh.”

Seems easy enough in a few lines of quotation…  In practicality, leading anything is very lonely.  I don’t say that to be discouraging.  I say that to make sure you are realistic.  I learned this lesson the hard way

If you are the type of person that needs other people to compliment, reward, and respect you to perform, then you might have a hard time performing  for more than two weeks.

When people don’t understand you, you need to understand yourself — your mission, your reason for leading.  To lead others you must first lead yourself… (DEWism)

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3 responses to “When People Don’t Understand You…

  1. Dan,

    You may want to proof read before you publish your view….I think you may have forgotten the word “are” before “we” in the second paragraph as well as forgetting the word “than” before “two” in the second to last paragraph.

    Just trying to be a help…………..Pam

  2. Dan-

    You may want to proof read before you publish….I skimmed your article quickly and am writing this comment quickly as well but I think you meant to put the word “are” before the word “we” in the second paragraph as well as you may have meant to put the word “than” before the word “two” in the second to last paragraph.

    Just trying to be a help… Pam hastings

  3. oh , also….I think sometimes people may not like others because they actually DO understand them, not because they DO NOT.

    Just some food for thought….

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